"WORKAHOLICS ARE NOT HEROES.
THEY DON'T SAVE THE DAY, THEY USE IT UP.
THE REAL HERO IS ALREADY HOME . . .
BECAUSE SHE FIGURED OUT A FASTER WAY TO GET THINGS DONE."
- JASON FRIEND & DAVID HEINEMEIER HANSSON
On the surface, you're seen as smart, responsible, and hard-working.
But inside, you feel like a chicken running around with its head cut off because you're resentful, anxious, and overwhelmed.
Those closest to you might complain that you're working too hard, overextending yourself, and doing too many things. They may say that all you care about is work and you don't care about them.
What you would really like people to understand is that the reason you're juggling 100 different things at once is not because you want to, but because you HAVE TO.
"Why does everyone expect me to do everything? Why do I have to do it all?"
You don't want to be doing all of this either, but if you don't, you will?
Hi, I'm Dr. Elena Kim, and I am a therapist who is not ashamed to say that I'm an overfunctioner-in-recovery myself.
I, too, did everything for everyone else.
I, too, worked harder than anyone I knew.
And it was draining me, leaving me depleted energy-wise and disappointed that other people were not doing their part.
But deep down, the real reason why I worked so hard was not because of desire but FEAR. I was afraid I wasn't good enough and going above and beyond for others was my way of somehow trying to prove to myself that I was worthy and good.
Finally, there came a point when I was burned out and had to learn about being authentic and intentional. I had to learn to be kind to myself and to give myself what I needed rather than expect others to take care of me.
I had to stop doing everything for everyone else and learn to say NO and set boundaries.
Amazingly, the more I communicated my needs to others and told them what I am willing to do but what are my limits, the more people appreciated my honesty and stepped up.
Now, I do things out of a genuine desire to grow and stretch, rather than duty or obligation. Am I much happier and get more done.
If you want to learn how doing less is actually a gift to your loved ones and a form of self-love, call for your free 15-minute phone consultation today!