Models of Couples Therapy
Some of the couples therapy training I have received to help couples resolve their issues:
The Gottman Method
John Gottman, is a psychologist, who published a book called The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work in 1999. This books explains how unhealthy relationships, over a period of time, break down and come to its end. But the good news is that this book also explains exactly what couples can do to improve their relationship bond so they can stay and be happy together.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
The basis for EFT is attachment theory, which explores how humans "attach" to their partner and why. In most couples, one person tries to maintain the relationship by pursuing their partner while the other person tries to protect the relationship by withdrawing from their partner. We need to understand your attachment cycle and how this cycle developed in your relationship.
Relational Life Therapy (RLT)
Terry Real, the founder of RLT, believes that the Western cultural values of patriarchy, supremacy, and toxic individualism do not provide the best foundation for relationships, which requires humans to be empathic, vulnerable, and accountable to their partner. If you do not have these qualities, your partner will not trust you and s/he will not be comfortable and relaxed around you. If you love your partner and want to keep your relationship, then you need to learn how to cherish your partner.
Imago Relationship Therapy
Did you know that the reason why you were attracted to your partner was so that you can receive the care your parents did not give you? This is why s/he triggers you: so that you can become aware of your childhood wounds and heal them. I can help you gain insight on how your s/he frustrates you and how that is related to your childhood pain. By unpacking your trauma, you can learn how to become less reactive by your partner and grow to become the person s/he needs to feel loved.
